Be different they say. But be
you. Be whoever you want to be. Be perfectly imperfect. Be amazing. Be
beautiful. Be exceptional. Be the Pioneer Woman, Joanna Gaines, Sheryl
Sandberg, and Madonna rolled into one sweet package.
Marrieds,
what’s your detailed list of resolutions you were able to hand illustrate in
your shiplap craft room while your children were on Christmas break? Where’s
your 16 year meal plan spreadsheet hyperlinked to a 300pg document of coordinating
children’s crafts and meaningful marriage communication activities? Huh? Singles, what are you even doing? Are you working
at becoming the complete marriageable package while being so content you never think about it? Why in Heaven’s
name are you only on 7 committees? Andwhere’s that financial
stability spreadsheet hyperlinked to the number of other people’s children’s
diapers you’ve changed hyperlinked to your 5pt plan for increasing both in
2018? Hmmm?
Exaggerated as they are,
expectations like these swirl around us sweetly insisting what we should and
should not be as women in the new year. But we, real women who know the not-so-instagram real lives we live, know that we
cannot. There’s no way we can live up to what this world, our Christian
community, and our own hearts expect us to be. And that’s ok because Paul
puts things into perspective for us in Colossians 3.
v. 17 Whatever you do in word or deed,
do all in the name of the Lord Jesus…v. 23 Whatever you do…do (it) as for the
Lord rather than for men…
Paul goes on a
stream-of-consciousness kick between these two verses. He starts listing rapid-fire
different roles in life and describing how each role can be unto God. Husbands, wives, children,
slaves, masters, but not singles because we’re perfect. Joke. He includes us other places.
Paul is giving us a radical
principle here. Everything that my current role in life demands of me, I may do for
the cause of Christ. I can submit as a wife because I’m under the banner of Christ not because it’s easy,
comfortable, looks good, or makes things easier. I can maintain a holiness in
body and spirit as a single because my
allegiance is to God not because it fits with the way I was raised, simplifies
life, or makes me feel righteous. (I Cor. 7)
You see, God is not calling
us to superwomanhood, a foreign country, martyrdom, or the worst and biggest
here. This is not a command to make our home, appearance, career, love life,
weight, or parenting perfect here. This
is a call to do every detail of our current role in life for God. God is not standing at our side barking do better or do more, He is saying do it
for me. Wife for me. Mother for me. Work 8 to 5 for me. Friend for me. This is at once both the high calling of the
Christian life and freedom from the oppressive expectations we find inside and
outside of us.
Hallelujah.
So, this is what I will be in
2018. A small, single woman in her 30s with a career and rental home. A
teacher. A writer. Counselor. Church member. A lover of nature, art, music, and
food. Reader. A friend, sister, aunt, daughter, and coworker. And in all these
that form my current role in life, I resolve in 2018 to be unto God.
What will you be?
Beth